Our greatest source of strength can come from our deepest of pain if we choose to feel it and let it be washed away...
Inspired by a young '40 something' man that I have connected with that has recently lost his wife from Cancer, he sees his life as a failure and struggling to move forward....He has been so blessed to have experienced what he did with his wife, such an amazing soul yet he is feeling so lost (as I have) I was able to walk him through where I have already been, which has been therapeutic for both of us...I lost my fiancé, best friend and father of my child, the pain subsides but don’t thing it ever fully goes away. But being able to help someone whose pain is still so fresh and feeling so lost. It helps me knowing that I was able to help him see, you can heal, you can move on with hope, faith and trust of a better life ahead. We will suffer as long as we choose to. I know the love that i lost was never lost, the love is still there but the physical person is gone, he served his purpose as I served mine. We did the best we could with what we knew at that time...
Sometimes we have everything 'all planned out', spending our life with someone, sharing our dreams together. Something that we rarely if ever, think about is -what would happen if we would ever happen to lose them and sometimes those plans change by something that is out of our control, and we get redirected for OUR own good (which we may never see at the time) only when we can look back and we choose to see the blessings that were place in front of us and many that are sure to follow ...
Sometimes we have to stop defining the deep despair of that 'one day' or the moment of their 'passing' and remember what our loved one(s) brought into our lives. The memories to be forever cherished, the love, laughter and tears that were shared. The lessons that they taught us and their spirit that will be forever embedded in our soul. We have to forgive any guilt that we may be harboring and let go of what no longer serves us...always to remember how very blessed that they came into our lives for a purpose, they taught us what we needed to learn. ... LOVE is what is left when we let go of everything we do not need. Pain and suffering are an option, feel it, express it and move on, we are never alone.
If you feel like you have failed, the only thing that you have failed at, is seeing how far you have come, seeing all that you have accomplished, seeing all that you have been blessed with, learning the lessons we needed to and KNOW that much grander things are on their way!
"In oneself lies the whole world and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand. Nobody on earth can give you either the key or the door to open, except yourself."
~ Jiddu Krishnamurti
