Healing past trauma

You cannot make someone see what they are blind to.

In order to heal past trauma or wounds, you must revisit them, Allow the emotion to move through you, make peace with them, get help to make the process a little easier. You must forgive the unforgivable, for yourself. Forgiving because you deserve it. Resentment, anger, rage, regret, staying bitter is only hurting yourself. Hurt people will hurt people, stop the cycle. Having regrets of what you should have or could have done different cannot change history no matter how hard you try. Learn from it, grow from it, change what you can now. Pain is there for a reason; you have to feel it to let it go. Tend to your shadow with compassion. Explore its depths. You will see in others what you need to heal within yourself, the law of mirroring, like a projection screen, others are here to show us our shit. Own it. Let the pain dissolve or it will eat you alive and manifest in a psychosomatic response in the body. The body keep score and holds onto trauma, it is up to us to feel it and release it.

“You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them”

 Iyanla Vanzant